Four words, with MAJOR IMPACT!

Four words, with MAJOR IMPACT! 

We all know that one person. That person who constantly complains about a situation or circumstance and yet they keep doing the same old things over and over expecting a different result.  That my friends is the definition of insanity.  Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.  I watch many people I care about go about and live their life this way.  Clients that complain of pain yet they don't do the exercises you recommend, friends who constantly hate their jobs (regardless of how many they go through), people who want things in life but have no real plan to get them.  I am okay with complaining, I know I need to get better at doing less of it myself, but when you don't have a solution or plan to solve your problem at the end of the rant, your just babbling words that bring you down.

The only way to get something worth having is to go and get it yourself.  Hoping for or finding the easy way will only get you lost. Complaining will keep you in the cycle.  There are no easy ways, you can't count on more money, better health or improved relationships waiting for the easy road or better yet...waiting for luck.

  

Change your mindset change your life.  I've often been told, I couldn't do what you do.  What is it that I do? I went to school, got a job or two and decided to make a choice, a choice to create my own employment.  Security for me is very important instead of complaining I'm choosing to create security, for myself, my family and my future.  I didn't go to school to run a business but I do it, I am terrified of judgement and socializing with strangers, yet I am in relationship marketing, I am nothing more than anyone nor am I anything less, I am just a human being, like you.  I have a desire to make it work, a faith to know it will and the persistence and consistency to ensure it happens.  Those four things change everything: desire faith persistence and consistency. That's all that separates the successful ones from the unsuccessful ones.  This holds true for your health, your relationships, your finances...pretty much all aspects of your life will flourish if you have desire, faith, persistence and consistency.  It's true, if you have ever applied this method you know it to be so, if not, there's no better time to start than the present.  

Someone said to me a while back that I may be following the masses and I should be careful.  I had a few simple questions.  What do you do in the morning when you first get up.  Walk me through your morning. Well I get up make my coffee, read the paper and get ready for work.  Okay....and after that? Well I drive to work and start my work week.  Oh I see, do you work 8 hours a day roughly, 5 days a week? Well yeah, why do you ask?  Well every day Monday-Friday a large portion of the population gets up makes a coffee and reads the paper or checks the news, they then get ready for work and proceed to do this 5 days a week for about 8 hours a day, does that sound like following the masses a little more to you? ........ As you might guess I did not get a response.  Again change your thoughts change your life.  

All you need to do to be successful in all areas of your life, whichever are important to you, is that you must first change your thoughts.  In order to do this you will need desire and faith, being consistent and persistent will make it pay off in the long run.  Once you start growing as a "better" person inside, being a happier more positive human being you will then start to attract what you want and need in life.  Happy people attract happy people, and people connect with people not things. 

So next time you complain, continue for a minute and start on the solution.  There are always two outcomes, what you can do about it and what you can't.  Try to focus on what's possible.  

Hope this can make you think going into your weekend!  Happy Friday all!

Stephanie Oliver

www.beautifulhamilton.nerium.com

www.lavandulawellnesscentre.com

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From Skeptic to Success- Opportunity lies here!

The first month of 2015 has come and gone.  What did you do with it?  We have 86, 400 seconds each day.  What have you been doing with them?  Let me share a little of what I have been doing with mine!  

This past month I have had a taste of the freedom I have been working for since college.  For the past 10 years I have been working hard to create the life I want.  I have tried the corporate thing, 9-5 is not for me!  College was great, I love what I do, massage and helping people deal with their pain is one of my passions, however it has been one of the hardest jobs I have ever had!  Being self employed with no business training was tough. Although I feel I have been very successful in this field, the problem is every dollar I make is dependant upon my time or my continual efforts. There is always something to do!  After 6 + years of owning a business you get tired and start to forget why you are doing what you are doing at times, I am lucky I have great friends, family, staff and support so I can get through those times and come back too.  I have also dabbled in things like network marketing, one company I have been with for 6 years or so just wasn't marketable or profitable.  I believed in the product, I still do but with a high cost for clients, no rewards for the clients or partners and high monthly quotas to meet just to make a few dollars,  made it very hard to sell.  Ugh just typing the word sell makes me cringe.  My next direct sales company was full of great women, but the products I found were replaceable.  They weren't exclusive in their results or performance.  At the time there was a high monthly auto-ship and I found it impossible to get anyone to order if from me unless I gave them my discount, long story short I made one check for $25.00 in 2 years, so eventually I gave it up.  I lost my hope for the direct sales, network marketing companies and started to prepare myself to work hard for a lifetime and accept this was how I would get ahead in life.

I then met the two people who would change my life for the better.  I admired their passion for life, their inspirational messages, videos and books.  Little did I know these people I looked up too would be my business partners one day!  They were apart of yet again another network marketing company, I was devastated.  Why, Why, Why are they apart of something I can't be good at!  For two years I tried to convince myself to join there team.  I was so skeptical, I went to meetings, events, coffee dates and kept looking to find something that would attract me to this company other than the fact that it would look good on my counter in my clinic.  I couldn't wrap my head around how to make any money or help other people to make a separate income on the side with it.  It was a constant get sales business and I am not good at selling anything, period.  Then just as I was about to sign my life away to something I knew wouldn't work, just to have more access to my mentors I got the email. Subject line: We are not longer with *****

I was devastated, I had finally convinced myself to rejoin the network marketing world, I was going to have my chance to work with my mentors and then they decided to do what I thought was crazy, they joined Nerium International.  Skin care, skin care, NOOO!! I just got out of skin care a few years ago.  Why oh why!  For a few weeks I felt lost.  I was prepping to go back to school and face the fact I needed to have  JOB for the rest of my life and retire if I was lucky.  Then it hit me, why would people having success in one company leave over night for another?  What if this wasn't just skin care?  What if they were onto something?

I decided that night to go out to a "market party" by myself (something I had done many times before for many other companies) I actually remember calling my family on the way and saying I don't know why I am going, its probably just like all the others.... I must say I left that event with more hope, more inspiration, more motivation and more joy than I had experienced in months prior.  These were real people, with a real exclusive product that was changing peoples lives. The best part is there was no real selling involved, just sharing.  Now that was something I could do, I am great at sharing! When I left instead of not understanding how I was going to make an income, I couldn't figure out how the company was making theirs.  It was like they were giving inventory, product and opportunity away for FREE.  That night I made a decision to join Nerium on my own.  Finally I had a vehicle with multiple seats on the bus.  I didn't have to choose between my success and someone else's because they now truly go hand in hand.  

This past month I have seen the freedom and residuals that come from being with Nerium.  I earned my free IPad in my first 45 days which to me had to be a fluke, until I watched 3 other people do the same thing, in less time than I did!  This past week I went to Mexico with my husband, WRITE OFF, I also got paid while sitting on the beach drinking a pina colada.  I love that I can get paid off of the work I had already done, over and over again! I am helping my team retire their husbands, pay off their student loans and be able to do what they truly love for they no longer need to worry about money coming in from a pay check or an employer. I get to give people the opportunity to take life into their own hands.  Its so simple.  Anyone can do it.  Including YOU!

You can do what you love, you can create the life you want and you can skip out on the 40/40/40 plan.  All you need to do it look at a better option....because options are a beautiful thing!

Lets talk today to see if Nerium is right for you, 2 minutes could change your life! 

Stephanie Oliver 

Director Nerium International 

www.beautifulhamilton.arealbreakthroughcanada.com

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** 40/40/40 plan- trading 40 years of your life, 40 hours per week to end up with 40% of your pay

Never give UP!

Happy FRIDAY!!

Okay readers, I have been on quite the roller coaster lately.  The past year and a half has been crazy. Blood, sweat, tears, laughter and joy have come my way.  As some of you know I opened a new business Lavandula Wellness Centre on my own last year.  Without help from friends and family it wouldn't have been possible.  Although I had a tonne of support its hard to feel like I wasn't "in" it by myself.  This might be because most nights when I was at the office late, I was alone.  When the bills came, it was just my name on the invoice and when the problems came up, I was the one responsible for fixing them. With all the support in the world sometimes you are still left in the arena alone to fight and defend, to win the game so to speak.  In those moments of weakness, defeat and confusion I would never have imagined I would be where I am today.  I am not rich by any means, but I am smarter, stronger and have failed enough times to know failure is the key to reaching success.  In the past year where I felt as though all my efforts were failing, they weren't.  I was planting seeds, nourishing them and hoping they would grow. My seeds didn't sow right away, they took their time. Had I stopped nourishing them when I thought it wasn't worth it anymore I wouldn't have met tonnes of amazing people who continue to support me, and show me whats possible.  I wouldn't have placed 8/40 for the Top 40 Under 40 business awards. I wouldn't have double ranked and met my short term goals with my new company I've joined, Nerium International, I wouldn't have had any nominations in the Hamilton Spectator and Lavandula wouldn't have been nominated in the Gold category for Holistic Health or placed Top 10 in the massage section nor would I have placed where I did in the paper.  I don't tell you this to brag, I tell you this to show you that just because you don't see the results, just because you can't grab a hold of that success and see it, its still happening.  Thanks to my partnership with Nerium, I read a great book called the Slight Edge by Jeff Olsen, little did I know in some areas of my life I was already applying the Slight Edge Philosophy.  Now I am trying to apply this philosophy to all areas of my life.  To do little things no matter how insignificant them may seem at the time, consistently and persistently, until they compounded effect gives me the desired outcome I have been working towards.  I am grateful that a recent choice I made lead me to see how I was already applying this to my life and how with the Slight Edge Philosophy I can really change any area of my life I wish to change.  Whatever your dreams are go for them, don't stop. Don't let the nay-sayers and ankle bitters bring you down!  People are out there to suck the energy out of you because they wish they could have the drive to reach their dreams or they don't understand yours. Just remember WHY you are doing what you do, and let that drive you on forward!


Wishing you the best in whatever drives you forward!

Blessing and love sent your way!

Stephanie Oliver Xx




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One year ago today…

One year ago today….how time flies!

Last year on this very day I made a choice to let go. Let go of the past, and embrace the present. Stop fearing the future and live in the now. I was sitting on the beach, 7am watching the sun rise. It was quiet, the water was still an the sun was shining! In that moment I realized this is what life is about. Not about money, status, getting things done or finding your way. Life is about moments and relationships.

The moments if you stop to embrace them will enhance or change your life. I met some awesome people last year the day after this day. It was the universes way of telling me, yes you can slow down and still be productive, yes you can take time for YOU and not feel guilty. I learned that night about “stillness” which is what I experienced that morning on the beach.

I also learned that relationships need communication. Without it there are just two souls feeling different things,. You will drift apart without communication. Little things or expression of emotion can go a long way. I have lost friendships over this, especially over the past year.

The most important thing I learned is our greatest fears can be our greatest gift.

Over the past year I left the comfort of my career and started a new one, I took a leap and started Lavandula and here we are one year strong. This allowed me to see my worth, what I could do, and what I couldn't. I met amazing people over the past year that I would not have had I not jumped out of my comfort zone.

I got married, bought a home and changed my inner circle. I know now surrounding yourself with people who are like minded, people who bring you up, is very important. Relationships that tear you down, there is no time for that. One way streets are no longer for me. I will care but only as much as I can without it hurting myself. Toxicity is not a good thing in any relationship. The givers generally start to turn resentful and push back. If you are a giver this will hurt your credibility as so and if you are the taker you will inevitably feel confused, sad or lost as to why, because a) it’s never been a problem before or b) they have no idea what they have done wrong because they haven’t done anything wrong per say. You did.

The moral of the story is last year I didn’t think I would be where I am today. I didn’t think I could do it alone and looking back, I didn’t. Great relationships will enhance your outlook on life, support you at your worst and show you love at your best! Facing your fears and going for that one thing you keep thinking about will open doors you didn’t know were there. It’s scary as hell, but worth every second, even the defeating ones. Take time. Life moves fast. We lose sight of what matters due to the demands society places upon us, why add to that by putting more on yourself.

Stop, be still, live freely and speak what you feel.

Here’s to the end of not only a fabulous birthday but an amazing 26th year of life! I can only imagine what 27 will bring!

Thank you to all those special people who believed in me, supported me, listened to me good and bad and never let me fall along the way!

XoXo

Stephanie Oliver (Muir)